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    Tuesday
    Jul222014

    10 Things About Love

    1. Heals. It penetrates the layers of brokenness, pain, rejection, disappointment, scars, and all of the other mess you’ve endured, and makes you better.

    2. Forgives. It takes everything you’ve ever done wrong, and tucks it away so you can move forward.

    3. Provides. It supplies a safe place for you to place all of your doubts, fears, and insecurities.

    4. Protects. It shields you from anything that’s not like it.

    5. Carries. It lifts you up, places you on its back, and carries you to the next place.

    6. Nourishes. It feeds your dreams, waters your hopes, and nurtures you hidden desires.

    7. Moves. It moves you forward from one lovely thing to the next.

    8. Speaks. It makes its presence known. You will never have to wonder about love.

    9. Engages. It participates in creation of your happiness.

    10. Remains. When all is said and done, love will be the last thing standing in your life.

     

    Love is everything.

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love

    so that the process that it will take you to get it will be worth it."

    Tuesday
    Jul082014

    Sacrifice + Hustle

     

    I had no idea how I was going to afford college. I just applied + prayed + packed + showed up + signed away more than half of my first real salary (in student loans.)

    I did what I had to do.

    I had no idea how to write songs or manage a music business. I bought some books + asked tons of questions + sent out 1,000’s of emails, demos, and cold-called music execs.

    How else was I going to land my first single?

    We didn’t have money to pay $100 dollars an hour for studio time.  So we took to our basement + built a booth + and charge other people $65 dollars an hour to use it (this is how we supplemented our income for years.)

    That’s how I was able to leave my 9-5 and get my full-time hustle on (my last job was in 2002.)

    I wanted to be a makeup artist.  I couldn’t afford to purchase a kit. So I went to work for MAC Cosmetics to take advantage of the employee discount + gratis. After about a year, I demoted myself to freelance status (I still needed that discount) and started my side-hustle as a makeup artist.

    I hated retail, but loved being an artist. So, I did what I had to do.

    I have created a habit of only pursuing the things I love.

    I have made some huge sacrifices to live this life. Some sacrifices were easy. Other sacrifices cost me much more than I thought I wanted to pay.  But all of it turned out to be worth it.

     

    My daughter asked me why I share so much of my personal business. 


    My answer? 

    To remind myself of what I am capable of.

     

    You will only become great at that which you are willing to sacrifice for. ~ Maya Angelou

     

    When you want something, I mean REALLY WANT SOMETHING- you do what you have to do to get it. No excuses. No settling. You just figure out a way to get it done.

    You are capable of doing far more. If you are in doubt, just think back. Let your own personal business be your motivation.

     

    Everyday I give myself this peptalk:

     

    Remember the last time you thought you couldn’t do it, and then you did?

    Do that again.

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love

    so that the process that it will take you to get it will be worth it."

    Sunday
    Jun292014

    A Few Words on Settling (+ How To Live Sucker-Free)


    Imagine getting to the end of your journey, looking back over your life, and telling “I guess I just settled” stories.

    The stories may go something like:

    I always wanted to be a __________. But then _____________ happened. (In other words: I guess I just settled.)

    I would have been a great ____________. But then _____________ happened. (In other words: I guess I just settled.)

    My life could have been _____________. But then _____________ happened. (In other words: I guess I just settled.)

    I could have experienced the greatest ___________. But then ____________ happened. (In other words: I guess I just settled.)

    I’ve settled. Not a lot. Yet still- I’ve settled.

    Every time I’ve ever decided not to do something because I thought it was too hard. I settled.

    Every time I didn’t ask the question, make the offer, say what I really meant, and let what I wanted- the most- slip away, I settled.

    To remind myself not to do that anymore, I came up with this mantra (brace yourself because it’s pretty deep:)

    Settling is for suckers.

    I'm pretty sure I said those words at The LoveIt Workshop in New Jersey a couple of weeks ago

    It may sound a bit brash, but it gets the job done.

    Settling. Is. For. Suckers.

    It’s for people who want to lose. People who don’t want to have what they want.

    It’s for people want to sit back and tell stories about what they could’ve + should’ve + would’ve done- instead of stories of what they did.

    I want a ton of I did that stories.

    …Stories of what I chose to do in spite of how scared, insecure, and overwhelmed I was.

    So, I choose to live a sucker-free lifestyle.

    Want it?

    Say it with me:

    Settling- Is- For- Suckers.

    Now decide not to settle. And, keep not settling.

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love

    so that the process that it will take you to get it will be worth it."