The Fight of Your Life

Was it a broken heart?

Was it a pink slip from your dream job?

Was it a new marriage?

Was it your first born or unborn child?

Was it a broken promise?

Was it your unexpected diagnosis?

Was it your big idea?

Was it a decision to do something different?

What ever it was that brought you to this point in life---all of it--- was for your good.

The moment you realize that, will also be the moment you finally take that deep breath and move forward with purpose.

I learned a long time ago that I will never win if I put myself in a ring with life. Life is too big and too powerful to fight.  Instead, I sat down with life and had a long discussion about how I want to live it and what the rules were going to be.  At the end of that discussion, life and I became partners and together we found my purpose.

Now I know that what I just said is the deepest thing that you have ever read from me.  It may sound really metaphorical and all “Eat, Pray, Love-ish.” But sometimes you have to go deep in order to build yourself up higher.

Your past is relevant when what you learn form it helps you and someone else.  It is time that you learn from it.

If you are tired of feeling beat up by life, and are ready to partner with it to find your purpose, here is your approach:

Stop fighting it. At this point in your life, it is what it is---not what it should be or what you may want it to be.  But that’s okay.  Your life is not over.  Just end the fight. Take a moment to have the discussion. Define the type of life you want to live and how you plan to make it all happen.  

Acknowledge the lessons. It is easy to overlook the lesson that a difficult circumstance can bring. Go back to the moment you experienced your most difficult circumstance, and welcome the lesson.  Could you learn to listen to your intuition more? Could you learn to be more assertive and to give less of your power away? Could you learn how to be a better friend or a better spouse? Whatever lesson you learn could be the one thing you needed to take you to the next level.

Become a partner. When you learn to work with your life and not against it, you gain control over the type of life you want to live. Instead of life just happening to you and around you, live begins to happen for you.  Nothing happens without your consent or awareness.

Let’s talk.  Join me in the comments section below.  Have you been feeling beat up by life? How have you handled difficult circumstances in the past? How will you apply my approach?

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Until next time Loves…When in doubt, simply do what makes sense!

Quick Sense Tip: Do Something

On this week’s episode of Nakeia TV I share another Quick Sense Tip.  This tip is probably this most important tip that I will ever give you.

The principle that doing nothing is just as effective as doing something is a life changer.

Understanding that the only way to get something you want---anything you want---is to take action, is a will absolutely change your life.  It seems like common sense, but remember common sense is not so common.  Many people, especially people who are like I was just 10 years ago, have no idea what to do to get exactly what they want.  So, they make a conscious choice to do nothing---hoping that one day everything will some how work itself out.

If you are tired of getting nothing and want to start doing something about it, here is your approach:

Do something.  Start with what you have at your disposal.  Start with your gifts and talents and do something with them. As you begin to take action, you will begin to gain the experience and confidence you need to take things further.

Remember doing nothing is just as effective as doing something.  If you want something, you are going to have to do something about it.

Now of course, I want to hear from you.  Have you ever been so confused about what to do that you decided to do nothing? How did that work out for you? What action did you take to finally change your life? Let us know in the comment section below.

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3 Things You Should Do While You're Waiting

It may sound crazy, but most of my big ideas come to me while I am sitting in the car rider’s lane at my daughter’s school. For reasons that have yet to be revealed to me, the wait time in the afternoon is just about 30 minutes (on a good day.)  I have tried, and tried to cut down the wait time, and I have failed, and failed every time.  If I get there early, there is a long wait. If I get there late, there is a long wait.  Instead of complaining about my wait time, I have learned to use it to my advantage.

Ralph Waldo Emerson asked the question---how much of human life is lost in waiting.

Most of the time when I use that I quote, I am referring to the time people waste waiting for the perfect opportunity or the perfect time to pursue their dreams.  I believe that is what Mr. Emerson was expressing through that statement.

Then---there are instances when I use that quote to refer to the time that is unused or wasted while we are put in situations where waiting is the only option.

Here is what I mean.  I must pick my daughter up from school, so waiting for her to come out is my only option. As I sit for 30 minutes or more in the car rider’s lane at my daughter’s school, I use the time to read a chapter from a good book, create lyrics for a new song, create a list of blog ideas, catch up with my little sister from New Jersey, or meditate on the things that matter to me the most.  I don’t allow that wait time go lost or unused.

Let me ask you a question, have you ever complained about not having enough time to read or catch up with family or friends? In the past week, have you complained about not having enough time to create an action plan or spend time in gratitude?

If you have been struggling with time management and are tire of wasting time, here is your approach:

Find the lost time. There is time during your day that you know for sure is wasted or lost. You don’t even need to think about it because every time it happens, you complain of wasted time. Replace that waste with action. Identify a specific action that you can do with that time.  It should be action that doesn’t take a lot of time; and an action that is measurable immediately after it is taken.

Assign your time.  This is the biggest success strategy that you can implement. Time is your biggest asset.  You must invest it in the things that will add value to your life. Assign your actions to a specific time during the day.

Make every moment count. Creating a life you love and deserve is not always easy.  It will require a lot of time and energy.  Even your down time or time of rest should be active rest. When waiting is your only option, make those moments count. Read a book, create a plan, catch up with a friend, or meditate on what matters to you the most.

Do me a favor and join the discussion.  I want to know if you are losing or using your time? Do you use your wait time strategically? How will you use my approach?

Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!